Fixed again. Hopefully for good this time.
Fixed again. Hopefully for good this time.
I was going for "stupid" but the second one certainly fits in here.
So, twitter. My work has an official twitter account so the site isn't blocked via the filters that are in place to keep us worker bees humming. That said, the filter apparently only works for "twitter.com" and not "x.com" so I can see tweets but just the words. Anything else is blocked. Pictures, videos, user icons. It's great for me because I was able to give the site up whole-hog.
the other one also concerns the filter. maybe you've heard about the great adblock fight that Google's having with Youtube and everyone else? Well they consider the filter we use as part of that so I cannot watch any youtube. Which, yeah, but also a lot of training is on there that I was watching to learn how to do things like Power Bi, Visio, and Project. Now I have to watch 240p or it stutters like I'm watching dialup, which, at 240p, I might as well be.
Ok, so I vented a bit much, here, so here's the condensed version (although it's still pretty long).
We live in our old family estate house with my mom. We pay a few hundred in rent, we buy ALL of the food, and we do, pretty much, LITERALLY EVERYTHING for her. And my wife regularly buys things for the house (cool new shower head, outdoor motion lights, air fryer, etc).
Bur she thinks my wife's job is a Cartoon Job or something, because my wife works from home, and that her hours can randomly bend to HER whims and needs. She acts like the thousands of dollars we provide in food (that she LEGALLY shouldn't be EATING) is Monopoly money.
She scoffs at the cash money Mrs Elevenism gives her every month. It's not as if she NEEDS rent money: this house is paid for.
We're basically "the help."
And I'm in far worse health than SHE is, at this point.
Yet, she insinuates she DOESN'T NEED us here, even though we quite literally handle all affairs to the point that she ONLY leaves the house, once a month, to go to an appointment to get a narcotic.
Furthermore, we've tried to move out TWICE, but she cried and begged and talked us into staying.
Worst of all, she fucks with us to the point that it seems like it's a GAME to her or something: goes on and on about how "lucky" we are to be here, creates contradictory rules, and starts nonsensical arguments on a regular basis.
It's MADDENING to have someone cry and beg and tell you they can't live without your help when you try to LEAVE, and THEN, constantly insinuate that you are of little worth, expect you to be at their beck and call 24/7, regularly suggesting that they are doing YOU some huge favor by "letting you live there," and just generally fucking with you, while you're trapped, through emotional manipulation, in a tiny (under 2k people) farming community.
Strangely, like 1/2 the time, she's the sweetest person in the world. You just never know which version you'll get.
Today was extra fucked up, as it was my wife's birthday, so, HEY! She was EXCEPTIONALLY cruel. Happy birthday!
It just fucking blows.
Last edited by elevenism; 12-08-2023 at 09:29 PM.
@elevenism I have one word for you, my friend: leave. You and Mrs elevenism, find a little, quiet place for yourselves, pack up your things and leave.
I'm all for taking care of our elderly. That's what I'm doing right now with my mom, and it's not easy. I see it as a duty. However, everything has its limits.
Your mom sounds like a toxic person and neither you or your wife need that right now. You both have a lot to deal with already; you don't need narcissist mom on top of it. Always remember: in order to be able to take care of others, you first need to learn to take care of yourself. I'm thinking your health would get better if you were to put some distance between you and mom.
Best of luck to you and all the love to you and your missus.
As for what pisses me of: all those holiday songs in all the stores. I want to break something.
@marodi , @allegro has been telling us to leave for YEARS. And, yes, my mom is a VERY toxic person.
Unfortunately, we can't leave right NOW: we'd have to save up enough money (again). I'm also beholden to this county for god knows HOW long- I'm still waiting on a first court date for the DWI I got 8 months ago...hell, I'm still waiting to hear what my BAC was! And then they'll likely put me on some YEARS of probation, when the hammer finally falls.
As far as the toxicity, one of the STRANGEST games she plays is talking shit about my wife to ME, to hurt ME, but mostly being exceptionally sweet to my wife herself.
She also calls us on the phone from inside the house, constantly...I'm talking 8-10 times a day, (it's a big house, but DAMN), with NO regard for whether we're asleep or, anything, really.
My wife has taken to like, completely avoiding her, if at all possible
Edit: thanks, @Wolfkiller . And hell yes: From the River. It IS a banger, and the song along with the vid are ALSO a good, concise history lesson. I'm also not here, much, anymore, but it's due to social isolation, and I'm scheming on coming back. I hope you're well, brother.
Last edited by elevenism; 12-08-2023 at 09:54 PM.
Sorry for double post, but, twas in this very thread that I learned "biased" was going the way of "prejudiced."
Well, I just saw a YouTube clip of a fucking REPORTER saying "bias" instead of "biased," and I mean, fucking CLEARLY.
It was like "but the opposition says...THOSE people are JUST BIAS. Back to you, Tom."
It literally fucking blows goats (literally now means figuratively, of course), but I guess language lives and breathes. I mean, I certainly don't want to be, you know, prejudice, or bias.
I'm honestly REALLY surprised the definition of prejudice hasn't already been changed.
Pro Tools. Look, I know it's an editing beast, but it's got so many bullshit hotkeys and unintuitive functions grandfathered into it at this point, that none of it really makes sense. The whole layout is batshit and unnecessarily convoluted, but I get it - they can't change it because everyone is used to the shitty way it is.
It's a sterile production environment that feels clinical, and going through a mix feels like I'm working with my feet. I used to know the software better when I was in studios more pre-Covid, but I guess I got rusty, because it's like learning it all over again, and I guess I have to, but ugggggggh... I prefer Logic, Cubase, Performer... I write in Ableton, Renoise, and Reason and I'm moving towards doing final mixes in Logic, but nooooo... I have to also know PT.
I'm really hoping I just warm up to this. I eventually became ambivalent before, but this is such a slog, and unlike practically every other musical discipline, this does not come back like riding a bike.
Oh yeah, and fuck their overpriced subscription-based price. Logic, you buy it once for what, 200 bucks? Then you get free updates and whatever. Pro Tools, for the basic usable version, requires a year subscription at 300 bucks. Now I'm running into playback issues... the song is crashing/stalling at the exact same spot in the timeline, and I can't figure out why. I'm not pushing the processor too hard here.
/rant
Haha, I get you. I work as a post sound engineer and love Pro Tools for editing (interoperability is key) and straight up mixing (also for music), but use Logic to compose anything. PT is too bland and uninspiring for that, always feels like working a day job whatever I do.
Yeah, I'm doing ambiance and foley for an indie movie, and I know PT is where it's at for that, and back around six years ago I had it all down. It's weird though, spotting and doing sound for film in PT is great, but mixing music feels... yeah, sterile and uncreative by comparison to the competition to me
People that use "of" instead of "have".
Looking for apartments. When did an administration fee become a thing? Im already paying to apply. Granted it’s been a minute since I’ve had to rent a spot the standard way but jfc.
My dog got sprayed by a skunk last night when I let her out to pee one last time before bed. It was out behind my parents house where we're visiting for the week. Amazingly, washing her with a concoction of hydrogen peroxide, baking soda, and dish soap seems to have gotten all the smell off of her. The house still doesn't smell great, but it's a lot better than it smelled last night. Annoyingly though, I think the skunk lives somewhere under the condo complex, possibly even under my parents' back porch.
I had a dog that was sprayed by a skunk and smelled bad for about 6 months. He had thick hair though.
Do you think we'll ever get to a point where these people will be considered mentally ill? I mean by the general public and not just people sick of seeing this bullshit?
Boyzone’s Shane Lynch accuses Taylor Swift of performing demonic rituals at concerts
People so stuck in the 1990s that the nostalgia physically hurts them and they are so scared to try newer things....
The ship on The Love Boat was not a "boat," it was a ship. The show should have been called The Love Ship.
On the doorstep of a colonoscopy here after a super fun night of prep. It’s been a whirlwind of checking health stuff over the last two and a half months. I’m so tired of having to think like I do and thinking about this stuff because my life is now pretty good otherwise! I got a better position at the company I’ve worked for for almost 14 years. I’m getting married in October. But since I had cancer when I was a kid and it killed two of my best friends in their mid 40s and your dude is turning 45 in 2.5 weeks, I’m hyper aware/vigilant of feeling poorly. And I’m not being a hypochondriac…I have permanent problems because I had cancer. It’s just that my anxiety makes everything bigger. But if I don’t thoroughly get checked out and spend time trying to figure out what’s going on, THAT’S when whatever will get me.
Please excuse the rambling and I hope there’s sense here somewhere. Needed to vent. Love you guys.
Actually it's a big thing pissing me off. Cancer. A few months ago I was diagnosed with pre-cancerous growths in my stomach. Not the end of the world but not pleasant. Last Friday I went to my primary care for a check-up. He found I have skin cancer. I don't know what kind yet. I'm going to a dermatologist today & going in for a scan tomorrow. This is on top of my losing war with rheumatoid arthritis. Life pretty much sucks right now.
I’m sorry @chuckrh . I hope it was caught quickly. My mom has RA so I’m aware of how fucking gnarly it is.
As for me, I’m good today as of now. Awake and about to eat. My fiance is the best.
A couple weeks ago I ended up in the ER and they found colitis. I’d been feeling awful before; I think I got something from a place I ate a few days before. I did a food sensitivity thing the other day (I’ve had food sensitivity before) and the results came back while I was under. They’re completely different than when I last did it like 8 years ago but much better results overall than last time. Seems like that coupled with the bad food I got were the culprits here. But the colitis is gone now! Seems like I was eating too much chicken as well as almonds.
Lots of hugs @chuckrh You're strong
Thanks. Did first round of treatments last week. It's going to be a long haul. Turns out some of the RA drugs I've tried may have something to do with the skin cancer. Rheumatologist is getting with the dermatologist about it. I had a scan for other cancers Friday but no results yet. I'm so tired.....
Sometimes you just have to bite your tongue, shut up, and do your job. Like when you’re mixing live sound for a band, and they suddenly break into Try That in a Small Town. You do your best to make it sound “good.”
I think that’s the first time I’ve heard that entire song all the way through.
More of a "nag" than "piss off" but I'm in Walla Walla for work this week and no one has good onion rings. How the hell do you not have good onion rings in Walla Walla?!?
I did get a pic of the La Quinta at Walla Walla Washington though. When I saw Mike in January he said he was able to go back to that La Quinta for the first time since it happened.
This qualifies as pissing me off, I think.
I live right in one of the oldest parts of the Philadelphia, and for as long as I've been here, there have been car break-ins. Last year, around Labor Day, I took a poster-based approach to reducing this, to surprisingly good effect: I put signs up with the Philly Police Department logo, alerting people to call 911 if their window is broken (911 isn't just for emergencies in my city). This led to a precipitous drop in break-ins, going from 2-3 a night, to once every two months or so.
Last month, a notorious corner of Philadelphia that's been known as an open-air drug market for, at this point, decades, was "cleaned out" by our new mayor (countless words spilled about this online already, so - moving on) and since then, car break-ins are on the rise again. I keep track, I clean my street, so I've got a pretty clear view into how bad it has gotten, and how quickly. So, last night was hoppin' - and around 1am, I hear what sounded like glass breaking, and a car alarm going off. I lean out my window, and I see the rear door of a Honda Accord opening and closing, while the alarm is going off. I put on my shoes and walk down the street, and I realize this is perhaps not a great idea - it's dark under the overpass, I'm not looking for a direct confrontation, just trying to see what's going on... so I walk to the end of the block before I cross to the other side of the street to come back home. Back in my house, I call it into 911. "Someone is actively breaking into this car I'm looking at in front of me." They say they'll send someone over as soon as they can.
A few minutes go by, and I decide to grab my mirrorless Canon camera, slap a 200mm zoom lens on it, and wait for this person to pop out of the car. I hear sirens, and a police cruiser with lights on comes up my street, and flies past my house. Bigger fish to fry, I guess. I'm leaning out my window, pointing at the Honda, when out of the corner of my eye, I notice a car park in a tow zone, in front of a hydrant, and two guys get out. They cross the street, walk to the car parked almost in front of my house, and definitely parked right behind my van, and pop, they smash the fucking window. I'm absolutely shocked - I swing my camera around and yell out, "You really want to do that on camera?" and press the shutter button. Now, I had all my settings for shooting telephoto in the dark, but I had to throw on autofocus because I'm pointing at something different now - and the damn thing hunts for focus as these guys cross the street back to their car. This at least gives the camera enough contrast to lock on to, and I rapid-fire over a half dozen 32 megapixel shots of these assholes getting back into their car.
So, now I've got doorbell camera footage of the break-in, clear shots of the car and it's license plate (a paper tag from New Jersey, great), and a couple minutes later, another police cruiser drives by - this one slows down at my house, and then continues down the street. I throw my shoes back on, run down the steps, and I see he's turned around and is talking to a crowd of people who just arrived at their smashed out car window. I walk up to the cop and say, "Take care of these folks first, but come to 103 Callowhill and I'll share photos and videos of people breaking a car window from minutes ago." The cop looks surprised, "Did you call the other one in?" I say, the Honda? He replies, "Someone called about a car break-in at 301 Callowhill."
Folks, 301 Callowhill is a commercial building with no nearby residences. I think that first cop car that blasted past my house was responding to an address flub.
Anyway, shared what I had with the police, it's 50/50 on whether they'll actually follow up. I'm getting ready to turn in, again, when I hear people down below - it's the owner of the car in front of my house, now with the broken window. I once again sprint down the stairs, and flag them down as they're leaving. I get their contact info, and share the photos and videos with them - and tell them that nothing got stolen, at least.
Eventually, I finally got back to bed - but I don't really fall asleep until after 2:30am, and I basically bolt awake at 7:30am today. Adrenaline is funny!
Wow @Leviathant Just make sure to be careful!
It's amazing how many cars are getting stolen, or broken into for parts lately. There was a carwash near me where dudes would just wait around the corner for the car attendant to pull the cars up, and once the car wash guys were done drying off the car, the perps would run up and steal the car right off the lot!