For me, my fetishes are more about the psychological aspect than any fancy toys. At the last
London Fetish Fair, there was an incredible workshop by a dom who demonstrated how he could make his clients cum just by tapping the air in a certain way or saying a certain word. The
leader of the London munch wrote this really interesting essay about
psychological domination. I love the idea of having that amount of trust in someone that you're able to let go completely. Because of this, my sexual preferences are an extension of a connection with someone, rather than a thing that needs to happen for me to get off. And it fits so perfectly with the rest of my beliefs and lifestyle.