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Not for nothing, but when white people barge into these discussions with irrelevant and insulting questions, they earn a reputation for NOT positively contributing to the project of social justice in good faith.
Last edited by botley; 10-31-2017 at 03:24 PM.
WHAT? The judicial system - both legal and cultural - in the United States has a race problem? Holy fucking shit, somebody call the president! Call the media! This is a startling revelation that I'm sure will be brand new information to everybody!
Not to pile on, but.....okay, I'm piling on. This kind of shit is not cool, and I feel the need to reiterate that.
edit: I just realized I read that wrong. Black people will be seen as bigger victims that white people? Holy shit, what planet do you live on?
Last edited by theimage13; 11-01-2017 at 01:30 PM.
Here's a nice warning for anyone who thinks about being a dick in confessional threads. Don't be like cashpiles. Don't do it.
We're talking about how we discuss sexual assaults, not changing how the criminal justice system works.
Also, if you read the article, they're suggesting that we say "the woman said the man raped her", instead of "the woman said the man allegedly raped her".
Both are factual statements, one casts unnecessary doubt on the woman's story. We need to stop doubting women and start believing them when they come forward with these statements if we ever want to change a culture that silences victims of rape.
Cashpiles kinda has a point tho. Because those allegations... they have the power to destroy a man's life, guilty or innocent. Once it's out there, it won't go away. So one has to be very very careful with what's being said and not jump to (possibly) premature conclusions. It's a dilemma, really, because you don't want to make a victims situation more difficult either.
Classic. Read the article again. He doesn’t have a point. This is not the thread for you or cashpiles or anyone else to question someone’s experience.
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Oh good. I get to add more posts from @cashpiles .
Post your opinions here and stay out of the other thread.
I'm sorry when I came off as insensitive in my earlier post. English is not my first language, so I'm not as eloquent when speaking/typing and tend to keep my answers on this here board rather short. Let me clarify that I strongly support #metoo and the opportunity it gave to victims to come forward with their experiences.
I find it off putting tho how you guys tend to facepalm or move anything out of the way that's not even NOT your consent but rather voices another aspect on this matter. Especially in this case, as I've never acted as a troll or anything.
I've never questioned someone's experience. I just pointed out the dilemma between wanting to be there for people who speak out and the possibility of false accusations. Because unfortunately (where I'm from) stuff like that happened in the past and destroyed lifes. That's not me taking a side in this, albeit I can see why it may not be the right time to mention it. And therefore I apologise.
True. And, my (quoted-by-cashpiles) post said NOTHING about the judicial system and innocent-until-proven-guilty stuff and EVERYTHING about media outlets following their lawyer’s advice and covering their own asses, EVEN IF THERE IS IRREFUTABLE EVIDENCE in a case, they just don’t want to risk lawsuits. It’s probably cowardly, it’s not in the interest of showing the truth, it’s just kowtowing to advertisers by avoiding controversy and lawsuits.
Like, look at this story.
This one, too (Forms of "alleged" used EIGHT TIMES!!!)
It's just standard CYA. Doesn't matter who or what.
It’s when the news is TOTALLY SUPPRESSED that is more disturbing. Like when NBC refused to air Rowan Farrow’s heavily-researched and well-documented story about Harvey Weinstein, causing Farrow to search for other outlets. The New Yorker finally published Farrow’s story. NBC was afraid of Weinstein’s power and money.
Last edited by allegro; 11-02-2017 at 06:25 PM.
Okay, but since your post was inappropriate, what example of "move anything out of the way" is at issue for you?
I understand there are exceptions but when false accusations are found in AT MOST 8% of sexual assaults reported to authorities (and keep in mind that this number is likely far larger than overall instances of false accusation, because we know sexual assault is vastly, horrendously under-reported to authorities) -- and many of those are actually the survivor reporting inaccurate information to PROTECT their partner that committed the crime from being incarcerated -- false reports are far from the concern it's always made out to be by someone in the crowd.
Last edited by botley; 11-02-2017 at 06:36 PM.
I'm with you on this. And never wanted to indicate otherwise.
I agree that this is a big problem in our society - not just in the field of sexual allegations. I experience said covering at my job (in the school system) on a daily basis, too. And it's frustrating. It's got a lot to do with insurance companies and the experience that some people are actually willing to sue for the most absurd reasons. It's putting us in heavy chains in terms of engaging in extracurricular activities and excursions with our students.
Yes! Here's what I got: I confused the demand for a removal of that judicial term with a demand for a removal of that judicial principle. And that CAN'T happen, I'm sure, you'll agree. So that was where I was coming from. Sorry for the mix up.
You know, I wouldn't post something if I thought of it as "inappropriate" before posting. I don't consider myself a know-it-all. So I'd rather engage in a discussion with you people on such a sensitive topic (like we just did) and not have my points moved to another thread and tag some facepalms as goodbyes without any explanation.
See, this is an interesting point that also exemplifies why I'm a bit at loss here. I believe those numbers. But I'm not so sure on how to read them, tbh. What is it that you are trying to say here? It certainly can't be that we should be casual about the possibility of false reports. Is it that we - on the ground of those numbers - should put our focus on people coming forward with their experiences of sexual harrassment rather than on the possibility that those might be false? I'm not really sure about that part of measuring those numbers against each other, tbh. That's why I used the word "dilemma" in my above posting.
I just - like anyone else - hope those people that disrespect and harass or rape others will be brought to justice. Which in many cases will be hard enough to do, unfortunately.
13 facepalms jesus christ is this a new record?
Why does this point only ever apply to men who commit sexual assault?
Breaking and entering, murder, fraud, accuse away, but not sexual assault. Why? Because there's a social construct here that's kept women oppressed for ages and too many men don't want to give that up. That's the answer.
A 'dilemma' literally means having to choose between two interpretations of a situation with equally unfavourable alternatives (in this case, giving equal weight to "She said this about what he did to her" and "It might be a false incrimination"). This is NOT a dilemma, however, because in real life well over 92% of the cases where someone reports sexual assault, it's found NOT to be false; positing the two as equally valid interpretations of the facts at hand is a false dichotomy. So yes, the possibility of a false report is there, but it's remote and we can usually discard the 'cry wolf' fallacy because it so rarely happens.
especially when you take into account how often sexual assault goes unreported (for years or sometimes ever) because of the power structures in place that prevent survivors from feeling secure about coming forward with their stories. some of the time, when a survivor does come forward even right away, they are cast with suspicion and doubt, and forced to jump through many hoops to prove what happened.
read this (long, upsetting, but very eye-opening) article @r_z and see if your position changes - How Accusing A Powerful Man of Rape Drove A College Student To Suicide
sexual assault is unacceptable. It is difficult to prove at present day. In the future; however, personal video recording devices will be everywhere... like in Blade Runner 2049... the bad guy's "eyes".
We need to face reality: evidence is extremely helpful, AND evidence is hard to come by in these cases.
Therefore, exercise caution. Stay with groups. Fight back against attackers. Vocalize your NO emphatically and steadfastly. Don't leave your children alone with strangers. It's unfortunate that we "need to" do these things to protect ourselves...but this is present reality.
Until we have Blade Runner 2049 recording devices, evidence will be hard to come by.
Another possible solution would be some kind of anti-rape armor... made to look and feel like other clothing material..but unable to be removed or penetrated without the wearer's consent. This is all sci-fi... but innovations and technology will one day help in reducing sexual assault.
Also, definitely what @eversonpoe says below. Education is usually the best way to shape society.
HOWEVER, in some cases someone is trying to get frisky with someone, and the other person isn't saying no..and in fact the other person is smiling... Do you suggest every sex act must get verbal agreement beforehand? This has been talked about before..even apps have been made for this.... but I think it's a bit stupid... these situations involve 2 parties... one person wants it.. the other person should vocalize that they don't want it.
Last edited by cashpiles (closed); 11-03-2017 at 09:49 AM.
do you understand NOTHING about power dynamics and coercion? do you not understand that sometimes, someone can start out wanting something but change their mind, and because of the perceived privilege of many people, the other person involved can decide what they want is more important and simply take it? do you not understand the paralyzing nature of fear?
when i was raped, i was 15, the girl was 16, and my limbs all turned to sand while my throat siezed up and she took what she wanted from me. i had no ability to say no, or to fight her off, or to do anything but lay there and suffer. so what the fuck are you going to tell me i should have done?
you are approaching this from a very narrow-minded view point devoid of empathy, and it makes you sound like a rape apologist and an asshole.
@cashpiles it's as simple as this
From now on, I refuse to acknowledge or respond to anything he posts. In fact, I'm going to rid myself of it entirely ...