Originally Posted by
Hula
One thing I figured out when I came out to my mum is that it's important to lay out (at some point—take it as slowly as you think you need to, for her sake) exactly what being trans will actually mean for you in the long run. I told my mum I'm trans, and from the stuff she spouted about hating ~labels~ and thinking it's damaging to ~conform to gender roles~ I got the impression she didn't understand that I actually want a male body. It's a lot easier to discuss gender with her now in general, so that's the good that came of opening up about it in the first place, but I know that if/when I decide to medically transition, I'll probably have to sit her down and talk to her about it again. In-depth, this time.
Moral of the story: it might feel like you've cleared the air, but just make sure you do tell her what transitioning will ultimately consist of so that she can't delude herself into thinking this issue is less life-changing than it actually is.