i told the bassist from my band / my close friend Dan (he was the only dude in our whole wedding party) tonight about my plan to transition and he had the best reaction i could have hoped for.
he said congratulations, he said if i ever need to talk to him about any aspect of it, or need any kind of support, to not hesitate to ask, and he said that he's always viewed things like
transitioning as being not a big deal (in terms of it affecting other people; it's obviously a big change, but not a BAD one, and not one that anyone else has any business messing with).
it was so heartwarming and encouraging, and he's such an open-minded and intelligent person, and i'm glad i have someone like him in my support system. it took me a long time to find male friends who are actually good people and i'm glad he was the first of them.
oh, and i also shaved my beard...