taking estrogen (in the case of trans women) decreases muscle mass and strength; taking testosterone (in the case of trans men) does the opposite. you're being extremely reductive in saying that trans women are "twice the size" of cis women because that is rarely the case. there is no PROBLEM with trans athletes, the problem is with transphobes trying to keep trans athletes from competing.Microaggression is a term used for commonplace daily verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups.
you're telling me that i shouldn't be offended by people near me having a conversation that is inherently transphobic. that's not dissimilar to telling a black person to just ignore an inherently racist conversation happening nearby. you're minimizing its effect and, yes, TELLING me what to do.
i'm not denying it's their "right" to have that conversation, but that doesn't make it less hurtful or harmful. and also it was a family with kids, which means those kids are hearing their dad spout transphobic rhetoric, which they are likely internalizing, which perpetuates the cycle of discrimination. how do you not see that as a negative outcome?
and i didn't tell anyone anything. i didn't interact with them.